By Francis Nwankwo
One of the greatest weaknesses of human beings is that we think we are strong-very strong. We see very dangerous premises but find ways to convince ourselves to dip, even if a toe, just for tasting. And from there, a whole feet, leg, legs, hands and before you know it, total submergence.
Human beings are very curious beings. We see this right from infancy. As kids we were attracted to diverse and many things and many times, harmful stuff like fire, knives, electrical appliances. Still under the tutelage of adults, these craving were usually under constant caging. However, with adulthood comes a lot of much desired freedom-and we can’t wait!
This time around, our brains are so wired albeit unconsciously with so much ‘revenge’ for the past restraints we have been forced to. Family, friends, and society at large now count on our maturity as they now give more of advice and less force. But the brain is out on a revenge! That’s why you find yourself doing things just to show that no one can stop you from doing them.
‘Smoking is bad to your health’.
‘Well I just did it and I’m not dead’.
‘Careless sexual activities could lead to unwanted pregnancies and infections”
“Well, lemme try and see if you are telling me the truth”
‘Stop going to this location, it will spoil your mind’
“I will continue and you can not do anything about it”.
But what happens is that at a point, the things you consume will start consuming you! Every human encounter has an effect, long term or short term. It can be physical stuff like food, drinks, clothes, locations, physical touch or information in form of spoken words, written words, videos, audios, chats, posts, etc.
My former dispensation is usually that I wish to learn about new things and experience them just to know how it feels. Recently, I have learnt to run. Running away from any perceived negativity. I am a curious guy. But recently I have become extremely careful about things I allow into my circle, into my head, into my life and mind.
Every experience is registered in the mind. So I take extra caution to protect my mind. If immediately I notice I keep seeing things I don’t like from a particular Facebook or Instagram handle, I block it. I can choose to continue making long unsolicited arguments on the comments section, but no, I am protecting my mind from negative interactions.
I intentionally cut off people with whom I disagree in most things. I no get strength to argue again! I no get strength to advice again!
If alcohol always lands you in a mess, why still take? Just to show you are now an adult?
If someone somewhere makes you feel like you are less valuable or worthless every time, sweetheart, walk away from such person. Run away from such association. It is an entirely different thing when someone honestly criticizes your handwork and thinks it is heavily faulty. The latter leaves you with a motivation to bring up a better work next time while the latter makes you feel like you may never get it right.
There are so many people who value you and give you happiness than the ones who don’t. Focus on those people. Focus on those places.
Be watchful of the things you do just for fun. Just to know how it feels. You are not a testing machine. You are not a lab rat.
As stated earlier, we already have this sense of rebellion against our environment which makes us antagonize and try to question instructions. This is not entirely bad as it helps us to foray into new grounds and take risks which may yield fortunes. But it comes with a precaution and price. Learn to draw a line. There are certain people you should not allow into your life. There are certain substances you should not experiment with. Once you do, you may not begin to receive the consequences immediately, but certainly they would come.
Drugs like Methamphetamine (mkpurummiri) for example are heavily addictive. You only need to test it once and you are almost very sure of taking it again and again and can’t stop yourself.
If you are a Christian, I personally block atheist friends and posts on Facebook. I value this my belief so much. I have no problem with atheist but please, I no want wahala.
Finally, Valentine is around the corner, deep down you is there anything special about it to you or is it just social pressure? …our brains are so wired albeit unconsciously with so much ‘revenge’ for the past restraints we have been forced to. Family, friends, and society at large now count on our maturity as they now give more of advice and less force. But the brain is out on a revenge! That’s why you find yourself doing things just to show that no one can stop you from doing them… But what happens is that at a point, the things you consume will start consuming you!
By Francis Nwankwo