By Fr. Augustine Ebuka Nnadi

In our last episode, we concluded with the assertion that setting boundary in an intimate relationship, between a man and a woman, who is not married to each other sacramentally, involves loving each other in selfless sexual desire. This selfless sexual desire has to do with seeing the other person as a subject instead of an object. How then can this be achieved?

Now, to see someone as a subject is to see the person as an end in itself. This involves having the good of the person at heart. Every action channeled towards this person must be to enhance the person, to make the person better, and to avoid anything whatsoever, that would diminish the human dignity of the person. On the other hand, to see someone as an object is to see the person as a means to an end.

Here, there is an end which the person is just only a means to achieving or attaining that end. The good of the person is never considered at all. The interest here is to use the person to pursue the end.  The human dignity of the person surely diminishes because the person becomes a mere tool or instrument which could be discarded and replaced at any point in time.

How can this attitude of seeing the person as a subject or an object, affect one’s response to the sexual desire of the person in question? To be continued next week….

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Fr. Augustine Ebuka Nnadi